Hello Thursday.

Agenda: 

• Stretch
  
• Work
  
• Phone calls (4)
  
• Mail birthday cards 
  
• Pill the cat
  
• Board games 
  
• Tidy bedside table/install new outlet

Let’s do this! 

Heavy question to daughter

​Heavy question…

Can we name you executor of our wills?

It wouldn’t kick in until the second of us dies. So hopefully a couple decades or more away. 

We originally named B / J, when we first did our wills in 2019. But you were only 20, and P was a minor. 

It just involves submitting paperwork with the court. Notifying investment banks that the person died, and to distribute to beneficiaries. Yes, you are one of the beneficiaries also. 

We have the lawyers’ phone number with a copy of the will, they would guide you. Everything is split 50/50 with you and a trust for P (which M would manage). Assuming we’re all still living in this house, you and M would have to figure out when to sell the house, moving P where. 

War … absolutely nothing

​So apparently we’re at war with Iran again (again, again). And it’s so ho hum, it’s getting barely a mention on social media. And of course, , will TACO Donny call for peace (again, again) before or after the closing bell on Wall Street on Friday?

Boy, it’d suck to be a soldier getting harmed in this and your nation can’t even look up from Wordle. 

But… this is exactly what Donny and crew are doing: wearing down our outrage. It’s all so f’ing exhausting. I’m finding it hard to care too.

Wonder what new hell we will be in next year when I look at this post as a quaint memory. 

Time waster!

​puzzle page Circle9 

Retirement questions

1. ​what are your hopes, dreams, goals for retirement?
   
2. What does your ideal day loook like in retirement?
   
3. What are projects you want to do before being physically restricted?
   
4. What do you want life to be like when physically diminished?
   
5. Who are your role models for a well lived retirement? 
   
6. What is a new hobby or activity you want to take on in retirement?
   
7. What will you do to socialize?
8. What activities do we enjoy together?
9. How do we let each other have me time and our own activities?
10. How much are we willing to care for grandchild(ren)?
11. What medical issues need to addressed?
12. How do we become more conscientious about taking care of our health?
13. What are new activities we could take up that would improve our health? Physical, mental, social…
14. What would we need to age in place in our house?

Side quests for July

• ​estate planning — meet with lawyers, get trusts set up 
  
• Italy trip planning — figure out cities, research flights, consider itinerary, dates 
  
• Theater in Tampa — 3 
  
• Hanging up art — front hall, travel art 
• Joining Y and doing strength training and aqua aerobics 
• Daily stretching — make a chart, set a regular time 
• Cross stitch — getting set up space in house, buying standing lit magnifier, make progress on Italy scene 

My funeral — notes for my husband

​preference: cremated, and interred somewhere people can visit, preferably near other buried family and/or living family.

But I don’t feel strongly. I won’t haunt anyone if circumstances change.

Episcopal service if you choose to have a church service or even if elsewhere. A priest experienced with funerals can help give the event structure. I would like some formality; it helps the attendees, makes the event more serious and set apart from every day. 

Funeral poetry and songs: have friends read, assigned or if they don’t know what else to say:

“Sunflowers (instructions upon my death)” by Harry Baker. Change Margate to Lakeland. Take out the couple lines of his favorite song etc.

“Let Me Go” by Christina Rossetti

“All is well” by Henry Scott Holland

“She Is Gone” by David Harkins 

“Keep Me in Your Heart” by Warren Zevon (play this song, don’t have someone read it)

Things I’d like to be remembered for: mother of Peter and Eleanor, wife of Sean, friend, daughter, niece. Hostess. Reader. Baker. Collector of trivia, especially presidential and USA history. Board game enthusiast. Puzzle solver. Craft never-finisher. Amateur art historian. Jane Austen enthusiast. Occasional poetry enthusiast. Lover of knowledge. Researcher. Word lover. Future reincarnated otter.