Sunday, May 4, 2025

EXPERIMENT: meditate 7 mornings in a row

Take 3!

  1. Meditated 1:50 pm Sunday 5/4/25
  2. Meditated 8:00 am Monday 5/5/25
  3. meditated 9:20 am Tuesday 5/6/25
  4. Meditated 12:53 pm Wednesday 5/7/25
  5. Meditated 10:18 pm Thursday 5/8/25
  6. Meditated 10:27 am Friday 5/9/25
  7. Meditated 8:45 am Saturday 5/10/25

Also set up persistent reminders from the Calm App for 7 am every day. But I have not seen them… I cannot rely only on my desire to do it. I know I have time in the morning; I can carve out ten minutes from social media and game apps.

5/8:,ok, I got a pre-bedtime meditation is. But mornings are better. Must make it a priority.

5/9 — I know early in morning would be best option, but I seem to put it last so it doesn’t happen then. The alerts haven’t been happening. I’ll check on alerts, and start telling myself to mediate after dog walk, before pills, so it is part of the things I do regularly.

5/10

i finished this experiment.

results: I want to continue. It really needs to be in morning. I don’t think the alerts are working. Or I’m ignoring them… maybe I will see if I can set up alert on iPhone watch.

Friday, May 2, 2025

Day 4, NYC: 12,000 steps

Slow to rise. Slept in… to all of 7:45, but I kept resting until 10! My legs were grateful. Another announcement about testing the fire alarms, but I figured what will be, will be. Never did hear any alarms; glad I didn’t hustle.

I packed up dirty clothes and miscellaneous, meditated, ate apple pie for breakfast, showered, carefully packed my little bag for a day of adventures. Created this crazy but comfy outfit. Remembered sunscreen!

My dawdling means a couple things won’t get seen today but that’s okay.

Before leaving, I got a text from Phyllis about our photo together. And I realized I hadn’t posted it myself. So that turned into a long post on FB:

Yesterday’s walking finally dirtied up my far-too-white sneakers. I finally on day 3 bought some sunscreen (reminder, Cindy, the rest of the world has sunshine too, not just Florida!).

A photo I forgot to post yesterday is me and Phyllis Jo Kubey EA on a subway to Brooklyn with the map behind us. Phyllis and I originally met on Twitter, bonded over taxes and a silly walking game called Pikmin, met in NYC last year for lunch, and hung out at a conference in Chicago last summer.

She’s a great companion for adventures in her hometown, and one of the most gregarious members of our TaxTwitter/@TaxRetreat group.

And she eased my anxiety about the NYC subway. I wasn’t scared of it, just aware that ticketing and figuring out where to go can be a little anxiety-producing. But NYC has made it insanely easy for a one-ride purchase — just tap your credit card at the turnstile. That’s it! No tokens (I’m old!) or cards to buy (a la Washington DC about 13 years ago). Phyllis took care of what line and what stop so easy breezy travel day for me.

Having just said all that: I’ll take the subway to the Met today! Way cheaper than Ubering.

… and so I took the subway. Paying was easy. Took me a minute to figure out which lines and that I needed a shuttle (a very short train line) to Grand Central Station. I *almost* got on a train going the wrong way, but I figured it out.

more cool art in subway:

Walked to museum, found a building with stunning doors.

Saw the Sargent in Paris exhibit which was fantastic.

then discovered a cafe in the museum that I hadn’t found before: overlooking the entrance hall. The sushi isn’t as good as I remember (ate it obsessively the last two years). The atmosphere is cool and resting is nice.

next up: Rembrandt, contemporary stuff on roof, Casper Friedrich exhibit, and the Met store!

saw Rembrandts, my old pals.

Went to rooftop for some contemporary artist. Supposedly “sound sculptures” but they made no noise. And were uninteresting to look at. But the views were magnificent.

Saw Casper Friedrich. It was nice. But underwhelming after the Sargents. Caught an uber back because the subway was a longer walk and took longer since it was rush hour. I still missed the happy hour at hotel. Oh well.

Times Square was NUTSO tonight, cause there’s a fight — like a planned televised fight, not a riot fight — happening, so roads and a piece of Times Square are closed and there’s no crowd control and it’s crazy. I was stuck in a crowd moving up the sidewalk, hemmed in by fencing. and getting tighter and tighter and then total gridlock. And I started to panic so I turned around. As I made my way back through the crowd, I heard others (now behind me)saying it was closed and to turn back. But literally no one listened to them or me. ðŸĪ·ðŸž‍♀️

I made it back to 43rd finally, went all the way around the block. And am now having a lovely rummy drink at Sardis…. Like 100 feet around the corner from where I’d been stuck. Whew.

*deep breaths*

A $19 drink + tip — Tipsy Mermaid — is a better deal than what it costs for a drink at the theater. Which I’ve happily done at my last two shows. But I wanted to go to Sardis, across the street from Broadhurst Theater.

Saw Boop! Soooo… I don’t read up a ton on broadway shows that I’m seeing. Or I forget what I read in recommendations. I like the surprise! I’d heard good things about Boop. And I *guessed* it was about the real woman who inspired Betty Boop. …

But … no.

It is about the cartoon Betty Boop who turns real.

And the cast … is very very very white. It is cute. The lead actress is *phenomenal*! But the show? Not real deep. I am entertained. But it’s not cutting edge, and it’s not gonna be memorable.

But the star? Jasmine Amy Rogers… she’s gonna be a star. She was best thing about the show Boop! A well deserved Tony nod for her.

Times Square was still chaos. But I’d promised myself chocolates or ice cream. Max Brenner was very expensive and … eh. So I went for ice cream at Van Leeuwens.

and listened to the Hum of Times Square one more time.

Gave a very sweet self-described homeless man $20.

And good night!

Thursday, May 1, 2025

May Ins & Outs

IN:

  1. Meditation
  2. Sleep
  3. Packing
  4. Walking
  5. Giving myself grace
  6. Tea drinking
  7. Reading Tess D’Urbervilles
  8. Flamingocon retreat planning

OUT:

  1. Any junk
  2. Anxiety about move
  3. Mindless eating
  4. Playing games on ipad in bed
  5. Flamingocon presidential duties

UPDATE

Finally made it to a labyrinth thanks to Rebecca M.

Done loads of packing.

Meditation is hit and miss but better than past.

Woefully behind on sleep and tea drinking and reading.

Anxiety easing about move as we’ve made big progress. Relatedly tons of junk out of the house.

Letting go of Flamingocon

Still plenty of iPad games in bed and mindless eating. Hmmm.

So mid-month report: add more tea and sleep, less iPad games!

UPDATE 6/1:

meditated a bit. Slept a bit. TONS of packing done. Not enough walking. I think I have myself grace, but not one cup of tea. Peter and I haven’t been reading Tess, and I don’t know why I put retreat planning on here; that would be better in the fall.

I got rid of junk. But also did mindless eating of junk. Played lots of games. But I’ve given up loads of Flamingocon duties and decision making — so that’s good.

But essentially I haven’t been working on these monthly goals. Probably cause there’s too many of them.

Day 3 NYC: 18000 steps!

It’s 54° so it’s dang cold on a bike. Luckily I have a great sweatshirt from John Proctor Is The Villain.

I left the hotel at 7:35 am (with less than 6 hours sleep) and it was 53°, wearing a cardigan. I realized while I was comfortable then, once I was on a bike, it might be much chillier. I thought maybe I was being a wimp but then I saw people all around me wearing serious jackets. So back up to the 17th floor for my new sweatshirt.

And I’m so glad I did!

Lovely morning. Busy park — lotsa joggers, bikers, and dogs. I’m posting now from the north side of the park — furthest I’ve been in the park. Now for the west side!

I’m enjoying the hills — cause I’m on a e-bike!

I rode the subway with Phyllis’ help. But ticketing is super easy. For a one ride ticket, you just tap your credit card at the turnstile — that’s it! But with Phyllis I didn’t have to worry about choosing the right train and paying attention to stops. Low anxiety subway! Got to see cool art in subway stations.

Later: I’m EXHAUSTED. I was feeling dumb for being heavier than ever and very out of shape.

But then I remembered I only had 6 hours of sleep (my own fault staying up too late). Then I biked entirety of Central Park. Then walked entirety of Brooklyn Botanical Gardens with Phyllis Jo Kubey EA.

I earned being tired.

Whew!

So that’s my summary of the day. Here’s lotsa lotsa lotsa flower photos from the Brooklyn Botanic Garden. The only reason I didn’t take more was often I’d think: a camera will not catch how amazing this is. Or how good many of them smelled.

Resting in dim hotel room for a few hours with naps. Don’t know what my evening plans are.

Wednesday, April 30, 2025

EXPERIMENT: meditate 7 mornings in a row

So I settled down to do my meditation before heading out. And … apparently there’s some sort of PA system? In this room or every room? There was beeping and someone blowing into the mike. I called out HELLO? several times but they didn’t respond to me. Clearly someone testing the system??

That was startling. In the middle of it all I got a spam call on my phone.

My brain just immediately goes to we’re having a national cyber attack… cause I always go for the absolute worst case scenario.

The PA thing appears to be done. I guess I’ll try meditating again…

Day 1, 9:40 am, Weds 4/30, NYC hotel room…

OH MY GOD

Two minutes into meditation, PA comes alive again and they announce they’re going to test the fire alarm system. So I ran off to my day.

Didn’t think to meditate in the two hours I rested before dinner and theater. Do I meditate now, or try again in morning?!

NYC day two: 10050 steps

I had an ambitious day planned for today. But the rock n roll tour I was considering for Greenwich village is cancelled or full .. so scratched that. And I’m sure it’d be nice to see the fancy NYC board game store but then I’ll want to buy something which I’d have to lug around.

Most likely I wouldn’t find anyone to play a game with. Which makes the time and money to get there kinda wasted. Or I do play games (which I can do at home) and I stay and I miss out seeing Pirates of Penzance.

So I knocked off two big activities for afternoon allowing me to rest a bit longer this morning and have a rest in afternoon too. So I’m not unhappy about cutting back.

Morning:

Was all set to go out to start my day and was gonna just do a ten-minute meditation. Which was interrupted by a PA announcement in hotel that they were gonna start doing fire alarm testing.

Fuuuuuuuck. I got out quick then! 🏃🏞‍♀️‍➡️🏃🏞‍♀️‍➡️🏃🏞‍♀️‍➡️

Called for an uber. It was a black Camry. I realized a black Camry parked across the street, so hustled across 42nd street — thank you congestion pricing for making streets less busy with cars! As I crossed I saw a black Camry with uber sticker stopping at my hotel on my original side of the street. Crap, which one is it? That black Camry then pulled a u turn to get to my new side of street… but then another woman got in that one! So… I asked first black Camry if he was Carlos… and he was, and disaster averted! ðŸĪŠðŸĪĢ

I was dropped off at a entrance to Highline that I picked BECAUSE it has elevator. I didn’t see elevator right away, so I just took stairs ‘cause I’m feeling good. Then saw elevator as I huffed and puffed at top of stairs. LOL ðŸ˜Ū‍ðŸ’Ļ

At least the weather is gorgous and my curls are bouncy!


The walk along The Highline was magnificent. Gorgeous flowers and amazing architecture. Loads of people watching. And I heard lots of Italian — still not good enough to eavesdrop.

Had a snack of a tangerine — delightful. Loads of benches and side areas on The Highline. it’s such a fantastic job of community development, urban planning, landscaping. No trash cans — but that also means no overflowing trash cans! Found one finally towards the south end.

Was heading to the Whitney art museum but realized I had a full bottle of water which some museums get weird about. So I first walked over to Little Island to look around and drink up. Fantastic choice!

I could’ve/should’ve stayed there longer. I kinda thought no need to see Pier 57 since I could see it wasn’t as magnificent. But I decided to go there for lunch after all.

Had a delish speck, goat cheese and fig jam sandwich. Nice flowers, but Pier 57 park was less interesting. And no seating with backs to enjoy my book.

Finally off to the Whitney. Ended up I had a fresh bottle of water Tom lunch… but they were cool with it as long as it was capped.

i texted Phyllis:

I must confess to being a little underwhelmed by the Whitney. I mean I know it’s no Met… but I didn’t expect that. 

I allotted 2 hours for it, but eh. Love the Hoppers. Came for Calder’s circus. Enjoying the Louise Nevelsons — we have a small one at museum back home. But I’m underwhelmed by the signage and the layout and the lighting in one room. It’s like, hey, where’s the world class museum.

I think I might be a snob… LOL 

But as I was leaving, my point about poor museum planning was proven true… a British man came up to me and said, is this museum free? He couldn’t find the ticket desk just as I couldn’t when I arrived! He laughed and said I doubted it was free, when I pointed out the ticket area. 

I liked the art that I saw - I didn’t go through whole thing. But I’m unimpressed by the museum. 

Took a taxi back to hotel with an older Greek gentleman.

Afternoon:

I’ve been resting! My feet are starting to ache. I did not walk enough in anticipation of this trip and I’m 20 lbs heavier, so this is all harder.

I bought a partially obstructed view seat for Pirates of Penzance, literally half the price. Penzance is big and showy, I can sit far away and miss a small part of it.

Now I rest more… the show is not until 8.

Evening:

Dinner at the hotel: linguini bolognese and Chianti

I saw Pirates! A Penzance Musical. I had not clued in that it was *not* actually Pirates of Penzance, but a fun adaptation with a New Orleans theme. I saw it ‘cause it’s near my hotel and starred David Hyde Pierce of Frasier. I rarely go see something for a star but I loved him so much in that show. He’s just brilliant and adorable. And he was in this too. Very energetic show!

And! I made new friends! My college pal Laura had a Kentucky friend and sister seeing the same shows as me yesterday and today. Clearly my new Kentucky pal Stacey has good taste in theater and friends!

And next to me in my obstructed view box was a lovely lady from Brooklyn, originally from Cuba. She talked my ear off. She’s a serious multi-shows a week theater goer.

And I turned down tickets to a comedy show from a hustler. And made it back to room to find I’d left my wallet here. Whew.

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